Essentially, Unlearn is about truth, especially when it concerns what we tell ourselves. Honesty above all else. It is about non-traditional thought, particularly where it applies to marriage. I operate from the premise that half of all marriages in this country end in divorce, and they tend to be the lucky ones, because most of the remainder isn’t doing very well either. I don’t think you have to be a NASA engineer to figure out that there is a problem. I have a few thoughts on the subject for you to either agree or disagree with, and most of them concern monogamy and its place in marriage. I do not pretend to be anything I am not. I am a blue-collar guy, who is fairly observant. I will maintain that when it comes to love and relationships, there is no such thing as an expert, and most of these so-called “love doctors” need a bare knuckle beating. The self-hurt industry has a way of taking advantage of desperate vulnerable people, and I think they suck.

Having said that, make no mistake I hope to earn an income from this endeavor. Not from this website, per se’, I mean it is free. The products that I am hoping to sell are my book, UnLEARN! Because Life Can Make You Stupid, and myself through speaking engagements. Some of these assholes in the self-hurt business make a fortune getting up on stage and spouting utter bullshit. They think up clever little sayings and tell people what they want to here. They all put their own spin on the same line of crap. The motivation rarely (if ever) lasts long. I want to see what happens when you get up on stage and tell the truth, even if it not what people want to hear. I think it is time.

My publisher asked me to write a three paragraph description of my book…which I think they plan to use for press releases or something. Maybe its so they can get stoned and have a laugh. But anyway, here is how I described my own book to them:

UNLEARN is a kick in the groin to the self-help industry. It challenges the opportunistic fraud’s who call themselves “expert” or “doctor” and use enabling psychobabble to create a dependency on blame. Without any sugarcoating, UNLEARN confronts societal normalcy, political correctness, and perceived morality. There are behaviors that as a population, America tends to do over and over again, at the urgency of these ignominious dolts, which simply don’t work to anyone’s benefit. Subtlety is used rarely, if at all, and if you are easily offended, this book will most certainly do so.

Let’s face it, this is a fat country, and if we really want to be honest with ourselves, most of us aren’t very happy in our lives and in our marriages either. If this is a revelation to anybody, they need to get out of the house more often. This book maintains that the first thing one must do to begin to make a proactive change in their lives to learn to be honest with themselves. In order to do that, they must UNLEARN some of the things they have been taught since they were children, and re-enforced by the self-hurt industry. People keep buying diet books and going to relationship experts, and amazingly people keep getting fatter, and going through bitter divorces.

The main standard that UNLEARN challenges is the traditional view on monogamy and its place in marriage. Monotony is usually the better term. It hopes to offer a series of alternative perspectives so that the reader can, if nothing else, come away with a different understanding than the one that they were conditioned to believe. UNLEARN does not hope to enlighten, nor does it offer the key to the vault that contains any special wisdom. It is a mixture of facts and opinion based on years of experience and observation, presented for the reader to agree, or disagree with at his own discretion. All the author asks of anyone is to be honest with themselves when they are doing so.